Another negative aspect is that you open yourself up to feelings of insecurity, jealousy, and other negative emotional feelings. How would it feel to love someone, and run the risk of your partner becoming more attached to a one night stand or occasional fling, than he or she is attached to you? This could open up a whole Pandora's Box of emotional turmoil.
There Is Guilt
Of course the idea is that there is no guilt, because technically you can do what you like. However for the vast majority of us it’s very difficult not to feel guilty when we are sleeping with someone who is not our partner – or when we are telling our partner how much they mean to us and we remember what we were doing last night.
There’s Jealousy
You may or may not feel guilty and everyone is different in this regard. However there is a big chance that you are going to feel jealous when you see your partner with another person, or when you hear them talking about them. You’ll wonder whether maybe they had a better time with them, you’ll worry that they might leave you, and you’ll hate the idea of sharing. This is human nature whether or not you have any interest in a long term relationship.
The Other Kind of Competition
The competition that your partner feels with the other people in your life can be a positive thing as mentioned if it causes them to make sure to always put their all into your relationships. However there is also another kind of competition – the competition you have against each other. You see as soon as you allow each other to find alternative partners, you’ll discover that it quickly becomes a competition to see which of you has the most exciting and successful love life. You’ll end up both bragging about your extra curricula activity, and there is always the possibility of course that you could end up having no interest from the opposite sex while your partner has a string of successes – and this would be rather upsetting.
Diseases and Pregnancies
And then of course there is the slight problem of STI’s and pregnancy scares. While it is possible to be safe in an open relationship and to take safe sex seriously, no form of contraceptive is 100% effective and there is always the chance that something could go wrong. Of course this is dramatically increased if you have multiple sexual partners meaning that you could easily end up in trouble. And of course the idea of an accidental pregnancy is much worse when it isn’t with the partner that you want to spend the rest of your life with anyway.
Management and Time
On the one hand you might get more freedom from your ‘main’ partner if you are in an open relationship and you might find that you are more free in terms of time and less likely to get pestered. However at the same time if you have multiple partners then you might find that this negates those positives as that’s more people to call you and to get angry with you. Managing multiple relationships can be heavy going and arduous and you may find you can’t keep up.
Your Partner May Leave You
Of course if you are in an open relationship, no matter what might have been said in the beginning, your partner is considerably more likely to find someone else – because they’re allowed to look. That means that you’ve created a situation in which they are much more likely to leave you, and it means that you will probably be much more insecure in your relationship knowing this. Which isn’t pleasant for either party.
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